How to Improve Your Performance Through NLP

We all want to improve our performance, whether it be at work, on the football pitch, or around the house. With the help of Andy Austin, an NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) expert, this article will help you to use NLP to change the way you think about yourself and how you perform in certain situations, then give you some practical steps to help you become the very best you can.

  1. Make use of the circle of excellence. Imagine an invisible circle on the floor. In your imagination, make it about 3 feet in diameter and 2 feet in front of you, something large enough to walk into. You can draw chalk on the floor, or draw a circle on paper if you like when you are first training to master this mental technique.
  2. Visualize. Go inside the circle and imagine that you are wonderful at what you want to be doing. For example, if you are a golfer and want to have a perfect put, imagine yourself as that person. See yourself doing that. How would you stand? How do you look? What do you wear? Flood your body with the good feelings of your confident performance. Imagine yourself carrying out this task and watch yourself doing it as if you are watching yourself in a film.
  3. Wear somebody else’s shoes for a moment. In your mind, you can use visualization to step-into-the-shoes-of role of someone you admire to get into that state you want. Imagine Tiger Woods, for example, and build a representation in your mind of that person who can do what you want to do well.
  4. 4Be aware that your brain cannot tell the difference between a real history and an imagined history or the history of others. All you have to do is emotionally capture that feeling of excellence using whatever role models or scenario playing that works for you. Go ahead, no one will know
  5. 5Capture the moment. Step automatically into the powerful state you’ve created within the circle. Move into that circle of excellence. Step into the picture of yourself, imagine it’s as if you step into that person, that set of states, the whole of that experience
  6. Anchor this as a resource state so that you can bring it up at any time you require it. In other words, figure out how to draw upon this state at will by practicing it, and then associating some mental or physical link or cue with it to bring it back when needed. That might be tapping your fingers, holding your arms in a certain way, or whatever physical link you can easily and accurately repeat. Repeat with more experiences to enhance the power of the circle of excellence. Use this method whenever you feel you need to boost your performance.

Tips

NLP stands for neuro-linguistic programming.

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How to Make People Think You Are Confident

The most attractive attribute in a person is confidence. Even if you are not confident in yourself you can trick people into thinking that you are.

  1. Ask questions of any kind. Sometimes asking silly questions is the best way to boost confidence, and people greatly admire those who show no fear of being judged. You have nothing to prove to anyone; be silly, be spontaneous, have fun conversations. These are really good ways to prove to others that you are confident.
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    Hold your head up high. Have tall, straight posture.

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    Make eye contact. Don’t look down or from side to side.

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    When shaking hands, have a firm grip, but not too firm!

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    Speak loudly and clearly. Think before you speak so you have a clear idea of what to say. If you tend to jumble words in an attempt to rush through what you’re saying, slow down.

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    Smile. Always show your pearly whites.

    If you look like this (yes, it's silly, but you get the idea), then people have no choice but to believe in you, because they know that you believe in yourself!

    If you look like this (yes, it’s silly, but you get the idea), then people have no choice but to believe in you, because they know that you believe in yourself!

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    Laugh. Make it look like you are always having fun. Laugh at your mistakes; you’ll seem more happy.

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    Keep busy. Don’t just stand around. Meet new people. Share a funny joke, join clubs, do social things.

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    Take compliments gracefully by always smiling and saying a simple “thank you.” If someone pays you a compliment, do not respond by putting yourself down. If possible, compliment the other person in your response (for instance, by saying something like “Oh, how sweet of you to notice” or “Oh, that’s nice of you to say that.”)

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    Be honest. People like you more if they feel they’re able to trust you and you are able to trust yourself. If you make a mistake, make a full apology, without excuses.

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    Appreciate yourself for who you are. Acting in a confident manner will make you appear to be more confident, but it’s also important to find value in yourself as an individual. This will give you real confidence. You are someone special, you have a beautiful smile, and you’re good at lots of things! Make a list of these things for yourself, and remind yourself often of your great qualities.

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    Make sure you are not nervous when doing anything whether it will be singing, dancing, or taking the driving test, nervousness can ruin everything for you. if you are singing, you will sound awful, same thing with dancing and driving.

  13. Exercise: Working out will give you more confidence get your body looking good and you feeling good as well.

Tips:

  • Don’t try to impress people. The best advice anyone can ever give you is to live your own life. The harder you try to impress people, the more unimpressed they’ll become. Nobody admires the kiss-up. Just go about your business and your social life will fall into place.
    • Remember, even if you do not feel confident, no one else knows it. Fake it until you make it. Pretend to be confident and eventually you will become confident.
  • Remember to always look your best and feel good. Taking good care of yourself is important to your well-being. Your hygiene, attire, and attitude are very important parts of who you are, and you should keep these things healthy. By taking care of yourself, these actions will tell your mind that you are special and valuable, and this, in turn, will truly make you confident in yourself.
  • Act like you don’t care what other people think, even if you do. Acting like yourself will lead to full confidence.
  • Remember that your honest concern, your innate convictions and the fountain of vitality within you always reach and enter the hearts of people. It is because of your own attachment to pettiness and superficial glamour and glitter that you underestimate yourself. So be sure that if you do soul-searching and act accordingly, people will surely think that you are confident. [Cf: Smiling Sun: Dr. Shriniwas Kashalikar]
  • Sometimes when you act confident, people get jealous and try to do what you do. Take this as a tip that what you are doing is working.
  • Put your self out there. Join as many after-school activites, including sports that are to your interest. This can show that you’re not a loner, and that your confident enough to work with other people.
  • There are many articles about improving confidence, and following pieces of each one will lead to confusion and disappointment. Set goals. Look up “The Strangest Secret” on Youtube and set goals you believe in. It will bring you more confidence than you can find by following an article. You will know you are unique because you are working towards a goal you desire, and you will find that other people’s opinions don’t matter. In addition you will have a better guide for making every day decisions, which means more assurance. :)

Warnings

  • Do not be too loud, obnoxious or demanding. That is a turn-off for many people.
  • Don’t cling to people and make them do all the leg work in a conversation. This will make them feel like you’re dispensable.
  • Do not try arbitrarily to “make others think” that you are “confident”. That will make people think, feel, and confirm that you are ridiculous rather than confident.
  • Don’t ever let anyone tell you you’re not good enough, because they’re not any better.
  • Don’t overdo the smiling. Some people say you have to smile all the time, but that can come off as kind of creepy. Just do what comes naturally and smile at appropriate times.
  • Don’t be discouraged if you can’t follow certain steps such as step #2 for instance. You don’t have to have perfect posture to be respected.
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How to Feel Confident

You might have already read and learned how to be confident, but what if you still don’t feel all that confident? Sometimes it takes your emotions a little bit of time to catch up with your thoughts, but here’s how to help the process along.

Emotions are involuntary. Hence feeling diffident is autonomic activity. But it can be overcome by certain steps. This article will tell you how to become more confident in yourself.

  1. Take a public speaking course. You might dread getting up in front of people, but there’s no better way to jump start your confidence than by assuring yourself that you’ve got something to say, and people are listening.
  2. Change up your look. Whether you’re male or female, getting a new outfit and haircut can make you feel fresh, cool and confident.
  3. Pretend that you are already confident. If you’ve ever wanted to be an actor, use that motivation now. You may know you’re capable and competent, yet you may feel rather insecure, but by pretending that you’re already confident, you might be able to convince yourself. Ask yourself, what would my confident alter ego do? How would they walk? How would they speak? Practice!
  4. Find some affirmations that will help you and repeat them often to yourself.
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    Affirmations are very powerful and need to be spoken as though they have already happened. Say to yourself, “I am a very confident person, I can do anything if I put my mind to it.”

  6. Visualize yourself being congratulated on something you dream to achieve. Imagine the person shaking your hand and saying, “Well done.” Hold a picture of you being successful, and chances are, it’ll eventually become a reality.
  7. Every evening just before you go to bed, think to yourself at least ten times, “I am a confident person.” This leaves a positive frame of mind inside of you and will make you feel more confident the next day.
  8. Do something which you are afraid to do such as driving a car, speaking to public etc.. As Vincent Van Gogh had said “If you hear a voice within you say “you cannot paint,” then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.”

Tips

  • Smile and relax; there’s nothing that needs to be worried about.
  • Don’t feel that your audience is expecting a lot from you.
  • Assume yourself equal to everyone in the audience.
  • Volunteer important works in your organization, this is how you can earn people’s respect and become more confident.
  • ALWAYS be honest and believe in yourself. If you don’t no one else will.
  • Don’t underestimate yourself just because you’re younger or smaller.
  • If anybody puts you down or makes fun of you, think it through and how silly the comment is. Make it feel like it’s a joke and you won’t take the comment seriously.
  • Not feeling confident is sometimes associated with a petty intellectual paradigm that stimulates our autonomic nervous activity which in turn affects our feelings of self-worth. This paradigm can be overcome and you can blossom from within by studying and re-evaluating yourself. [Cf: Smiling Sun: Dr. Shriniwas Kashalikar]

Warnings

  • It is not correct to get obsessed and depressed by “Not feeling confident”. Anyone can gain confidence.
  • Blind belief and fanatic disposition can make one feel confident. But that can be disasterous.
  • Hence rather than making frantic efforts to “somehow feel confident” explore and care for your true self. Your true self is noble and dignified. Exploring and caring for your true self will ensure revitalization and the natural and full fledged emergence of feeling of confidence [Cf: Stress: Understanding and Management: Dr. Shriniwas Kashalikar]
  • Don’t be mean and put other people down to grow your own confidence, afterall you wouldnt want to be put down yourself and people will start to dislike you.
  • Be yourself! Nobody likes a poser dont try to be someone you’re not just bring out your inner confidence it is there and it is you! Don’t forget that!
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Generate Enlightenment

To en-(or in-, as an intensifier) + lighten (i.e. get brighter or lighter) means: to increase available energy in a (i.e. any) living system. Energy increase happens when a problem is solved, and the energy invested in its resolution is released. Minor enlightenment is a frequent, everyday occurrence. Major enlightenment is rare. Full enlightenment is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

  1. Experience your current state fully. Activate a real problem or create an artificial problem, for instance, a game.
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    Invest maximum energy to define and solve the problem or win the game.

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    Experience the energy surge or enlightenment, that results from problem solving and winning.

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    Percolate the energy throughout your body and mind to lighten it up. If you can’t solve your problem, or win, plug into an external energy source.

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    Refrain from dissipating your enlightenment as happiness. Reinvest it to solve an even more difficult problem or win a more advanced game.

Tips

  • Perform all the steps completely.
  • Fine-tune your capacity to experience even minimal enlightenment.
  • If unsuccessful, simply pump in energy to generate a new energy high.
  • Don’t forget belief, desire or expectancy of your success and you will find enlightenment far easier.

Warnings

  • Enlightenment is not conserved. Don’t attach!
  • Avoid energy suckers, those who tell you that you can’t do it.
  • Investing your energy wholly in one particular actual problem is dangerous because it leaves other problems you need to solve under-energized.
  • Investing your whole energy to solve an artificial problem is very risky, but fun.
  • You can never stop being enlightened. If you didn’t reach your goal, don’t worry because that will pull you away. You’ll get there if you keep going.

What You need:

  • A problem, real or invented
  • The urge to feel free and happy
  • Normal random access capacity
  • Normal, albeit cleansed, observation capacity
  • Normal, albeit unobstructed, analysis capacity
  • Normal ability to decide/stop
  • A full capacity to experience conciously
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How to Do Awareness Meditation

Awareness meditation is a relaxing and peaceful way to meditate and become more aware of the world around you and your place in it. Breathe deeply and prepare for your quiet and peaceful journey into relaxation and awareness.

  1. Sit down or stand still. Sitting in a lotus position is usually quite stressing on your legs unless you know how to do it very well.
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    Rest your palms on your lap or knees. If you are standing, let your arms fall naturally at your sides. Just don’t collapse!

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    Breathe slightly deeper than normal.

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    Be aware of your breath.

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    If you notice that you are thinking, acknowledge it. Then let it fade away.

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    Return to awareness of your breath.

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    Repeat steps 4-6. Once you are done with that, repeat this step. This step is an infinite loop.

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    Stop your meditation any time if you want to.

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    If you have back problems you may want to sit on a pillow.

Tips:

  • The Benefits: You will become calmer; you may have insight; you can get along with people easily.
  • If you count your breaths for the first few tries it will become easier to think of nothing. Beginners should try in for the count of 5 hold for 5 and out in 5. Get slower as you go but only up to 7.
  • It is recommended that you obtain direct instruction from a meditation teacher.
  • Meditation may be prayer, and you may believe in meditating, or praying, “through,” perhaps for hours to find, “peace” (a quiet place).
  • Some believe in an unknown meditational language, “glossolalia” – lingua – tongue (or tone) with which the “Holy Spirit” may groan to the heavenly Father in “charmistic” meditations.
  • Charisma has an attribute of the unseen leading of the Holy Spirit in personal relationship with the Father (discerning the Spirit).
  • That word derives from the Greek charis (“grace”) and charizesthai (“to show favour”), connoting a spiritual grace for salvation granted by grace through faith for enabling good works.
  • Charisma comes from the being comfortable with yourself, it comes from practicing meditation. From knowing and accepting the core human fallible and childlike part of you that connects you to all humanity. It comes from letting go of all the ‘chatter’ that we learn in our lives, of how we should be and what we should be. It is about being in the moment and letting go of all the external stuff.
  • With meditation you can learn to let all the stuff that is other peoples frustrations and problems wash over you and stop affecting you because you are aware of the core central person you are, with all the strange feelings that this involves. These feelings are all about you being a human rather than because of external factors, it is about knowing yourself. Try to remember that others behave according to their internal stories and therefore it is not necessarily to do with you, even when it seems to be directed at you. Rise above it. do not engage in this tit for tat type stuff.you can be above it. Letting go of this is liberating and this is what meditation offers. Go for it no matter what you religious stand point is at the moment, its no other than learning about the central human self.
  • When you meditate the goal is zoning out. To practically fall asleep while still staying aware or focusing on certain points. This allows your mind to revert to that relaxed, stress free mental state during stressful situations (IE taxes or work). So when you do a session, always pick really warm thoughts that help you zone out. You will go deeper when your more comfortable! After meditating you might feel some trouble with getting erections but don’t worry its normal!!

Warning:

  • Don’t fall asleep, especially in a large crowd.
  • Don’t collapse (if standing), especially in a large crowd.
  • Make sure you have plenty of time. True meditation makes time seem to accelerate, and you might not notice the hours passing.

What you need:

  • An open and calm mind
  • A quiet or if you prefer noisy place
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How to Meditate

  1. Make time to meditate. Set aside enough time in your daily routine for meditating. The effects of meditation are most noticeable when you do it regularly and consistently rather than sporadically.
    • Some people will find a five minute meditation worthwhile, for others, the benefits of longer meditation are well worth the time.
    • You can meditate at any time of day; some people like to start their day off with meditation, others like to end the day by clearing their mind, and some prefer to find refuge in meditation in the middle of a busy day. Generally, however, the easiest time to meditate is in the morning, before the day tires your body out and gives your mind more to think about.
    • Don’t meditate immediately following a meal, or when you are likely to be hungry. The body’s digestive system can be very distracting.
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    Find or create a quiet, relaxing environment. It’s especially important, when you’re starting out, to avoid any obstacles to attention. Turn off any TV sets, phone(s) or other noisy appliances. If you play music, make sure it’s calm, repetitive and gentle, so as not to break your concentration. Meditating outside can be conducive, as long as you don’t sit near a busy roadway or another source of loud noise.

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    Sit on level ground. Sit on a cushion if the ground is uncomfortable. You don’t have to twist your limbs into the lotus position or adopt any unusual postures. The important thing is to keep your back straight, as this will help with breathing later on.

    • Tilt your pelvis forward by sitting on the forward edge of a thick cushion, or on a chair that has its back legs lifted off the ground 8 to 10 cm (3 or 4 inches).
    • Starting from your bottom, stack up the vertebrae in your spine, so that they are balanced one on top of another and support the whole weight of your torso, neck, and head. Done correctly, it feels as if no effort is required to hold your torso up. (A small amount of effort is in fact required, but with the right posture, it is so small and evenly distributed you don’t notice it.)
    • Relax your arms and legs. They don’t need to be in any special position, just as long as they are relaxed and don’t interfere with balancing your torso. You can put your hands on your thighs, but it might be easier at first to let your arms hang at your sides – the hanging weight helps reveal where things are out of alignment.
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    Relax everything, and keep searching for things that aren’t relaxed. When you find them, (and you will), relax them. You may find that you can’t relax them unless you adjust your posture so that you are better aligned, and that place doesn’t need to work anymore. This commonly happens with muscles near your spine. You may also notice that you are twisted a little and need to straighten out. Little muscles in your face often keep getting tense, too.

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    Let your attention rest on the flow of your breath. Listen to it, follow it, but make no judgments on it (such as “It sounds a little raspy…maybe I’m getting a cold?”). The goal is to allow the “chattering” in your mind to gradually fade away. Find an “anchor” to settle your mind.

    • Try reciting a mantra (repetition of a sacred word). A single word like “aum” uttered at a steady rhythm is best. You can recite it verbally or just with the voice in your mind. Beginners may find it easier to count their breaths. Try counting your breath from 1 to 10, then simply start again at 1.
    • To circumvent images that keep intruding on your thoughts, visualize a place that calms you. It can be real or imaginary. Imagine you are at the top of a staircase leading to a peaceful place. Count your way down the steps until you are peaceful and relaxed.

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    Silence your mind. Once you’ve trained your mind to focus on just one thing at a time, the next step is focus on nothing at all, essentially “clearing” your mind. This requires tremendous discipline but is the pinnacle of meditation. After focusing on a single point as described in the previous step, you can either cast it away, or observe it impartially and let it come and then go, without labeling it as “good” or “bad”. Take the same approach to any thoughts which return to your mind until silence perseveres.

    Tips

    • For some people, focusing attention on a point or object does exactly the opposite of what meditation is all about. It takes you back to the life of focus, concentration, strain. In this case, as an alternative to the above techniques, some meditators recommend un-focusing your attention. Instead of focusing attention on a point or an object, this type of meditation is achieved by attaining a state of zero. Take your attention above all thoughts to a point where you lose all attention and all thoughts.
    • What you do with a silent mind is up to you. Some people find that it is a good time to introduce an intention or a desired outcome to the subconscious mind. Others prefer to “rest” in the rare silence that meditation affords.
    • You should be comfortable enough to concentrate, but not so comfortable that you feel the urge to fall asleep.
    • Make some effort to be mindful of your mood and thoughts when not meditating. You may notice that you feel calmer, happier, and sharper on days when you have meditated, and notice a decrease in these qualities when you have not.
    • It may be beneficial to mentally review or replay the previous day at the start of your sessions, if you can do so in a relaxed, passive way. This often happens naturally, and sometimes it’s best to allow this to happen, as long as you don’t get emotionally wrapped up or let it go on too long before beginning meditation. This procedure is known as “processing” of recent events, and becoming skilled at performing a non-judgmental review of events does much to increase awareness and emotional well-being.
    • The benefits of meditation can be experienced long before the practitioner has been successful in maintaining focus or clearing the mind, simply as a result of the practice.
    • Set aside a specific time each day for meditation, but don’t overdo it. If 20-30 minutes in the morning isn’t enough, add another session later in the day instead of trying for a single, longer session.
    • It is easy to lose track of time while meditating. Being concerned about time can be distracting to meditation. Some people find it liberating to set a timer and let it be concerned about how long you have to meditate. Choose a gentle timer. If it is too jarring, the anticipation of the alarm can be distracting also.
    • With good posture, it will be easier to breathe as your lungs will have more space. In fact, you may notice how most of the muscles in your torso work to help you breathe, from the muscles in the base of your pelvis to the ones in your neck, centered on the main breathing muscle, the diaphragm. They work just a little, assisting the diaphragm. If you notice this, it’s a good sign you have established a good posture. The right posture is easy and comfortable. You almost feel like you are floating.

    Warnings

    • Don’t expect immediate results. The purpose of meditation is not to turn you into a Zen master overnight. Meditation works best when it is done for its own sake, without becoming attached to results.
    • If you find your mind is wandering, try not to scold or beat up on yourself about it. Wandering restlessly is the normal state of the conditioned mind. This is the first lesson many people learn in meditation and it is a valuable one. Simply, gently, invite your attention back to your breath, remembering that you’ve just had a small but precious “awakening.” Becoming aware of your wandering mind is a success, not a failure.
    • Some people find it’s difficult to meditate immediately before bedtime. If you’re very sleepy, you may find yourself nodding off. Conversely, meditating may energize your mind, making it more difficult to fall asleep.
    • As you meet other people who meditate, you may encounter a few who will boast about their endurance for long meditation sessions, even hours and hours at a sitting. Don’t be tempted to change your practice to “keep up.” Meditation is not competitive. It’s a way of life.
    • If your posture is good, you will almost certainly feel a stretch on the back of your neck, and possibly in your shoulders. Just relax. If the stretch is so pronounced that it is painful, work on stretching and relaxing that area when you aren’t meditating.
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Meditation

Meditation is a mental discipline by which one attempts to get beyond the conditioned, “thinking” mind into a deeper state of relaxation or awareness. There are many different meditation methods.

At the core of meditation is the goal to focus and eventually quiet your mind. As you progress, you will find that you can meditate anywhere and at any time, accessing an inner calm no matter what’s going on around you. You will also find that you can better control your reactions to things as you become increasingly aware of your thoughts (letting go of anger, for example). But first, you have to learn to tame your mind.

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Self Hypnosis Scripts

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